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New Year, New We

Jan 7
2 min

New Year, New We

Hey beauties it’s been a minute, forgive us. For us 2022 was life turnt up. We have had our highs and lows but thankfully we have always had each other to celebrate commiserate and just holla out ‘I got you sis’! OY kicked off with New Year, New You, did you find out who you were? As Mum’s we recognised that our romantic relationships with sleep had taken a nosedive and became our side piece. Sleep had been reduced to stolen moments whilst hoping no little people saw you cl

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So now what!

Oct 7, 2022
3 min

So now what!

Hey sis how’s things? It’s a real question, answer it! Are you well? Do you even know what being well means to you? Well I didn’t, I thought I was well but I was sick, sick and tired of being sick and tired! It wasn’t one thing, but everything and everyone but really and truly it was truly all just about me. The me I’d become wasn’t the me I was supposed to be, it just happened and I didn’t know when or how, but I got so sick and tired of being sick and tired that I had to pa

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Side Hustle Mumma - The Crochet Queen

Aug 13, 2022
3 min

Side Hustle Mumma - The Crochet Queen

Ladies we are back with a bang and you are going to explode into action hearing from these beautiful Black women who are using their talents to fill themselves with joy whilst sprinkling that joy on others. These are determined women who on top of their full time role whether that be as a mum or CEO, are pulling out all the stops to manage a side hustle . This flexible second job, brings in extra money, but typically is a passion of theirs, a passion that they don't get to pu

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Side Hustle MUMMA - Representation matters: Black Books and Toys Specialist

Aug 13, 2022
4 min

Side Hustle MUMMA - Representation matters: Black Books and Toys Specialist

Ladies we are back with a bang and you are going to explode into action hearing from these beautiful Black women who are using their talents to fill themselves with joy whilst sprinkling that joy on others. These are determined women who on top of their full time role whether that be as a mum or CEO, are pulling out all the stops to manage a side hustle . This flexible second job brings in extra money, but typically is a passion of theirs, a passion that they don't get to pur

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OY Collaboration with Cancer Awareness Project (CAP)- ♂Prostate Cancer

May 13, 2022
4 min

OY Collaboration with Cancer Awareness Project (CAP)- ♂Prostate Cancer

Ladies we are back shouting about health, the health of our men. It is no secret that the Black woman is the backbone of her family, we are the matriarch by choice or by default and what a mantel we hold. There are so many negative connotations about the strength of a Black woman, but we are so grateful you and I and we are all filled with it in abundance. This is why we at OY know you are the best people to talk to about your Black mans health. Know-one wants to talk about

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Healthy Ways To Eat Your Cultural Food

Feb 19, 2022
5 min

Healthy Ways To Eat Your Cultural Food

Congratulations! Mrs ...... is 102 today ! How many times when we look at our home countries do we see these headlines? Why do you think that is? We can tell you it ain't because their calorie counting or calorie capped. Ladies, so often I have had conversations with my girls and the first thing they want to do is get rid of their home dishes when it's time to lose weight or cut down. Numerous times I have had to counter with the ages of our ancestors who live in our home co

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Growing Generational Traditions

Feb 19, 2022
5 min

Growing Generational Traditions

Photo by Any Lane from Pexels Sis do you ever question why you have life skills that you just can not find in your children? Could it be that you are not growing your generational traditions? Do your children know the difference between a dutch pot and a wok? Can they tell you which is sweet potato and which is cassava? Ladies, these may seem like insignificant things but actually these nuances speak of the diversity, range and beauty of what makes up Black people. They a

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The Importance Of YOU Reading!

Feb 18, 2022
4 min

The Importance Of YOU Reading!

Photo by cottonbro from Pexels What was the last book you read? For us growing up reading was a daily requirement, non optional. We read until the covers of books fell off. As an adult reading had become something of a chore, for work, education, paying bills or changing services and we lost the time and the pleasure for reading. Fast forward to pandemic living and time became abundant and pleasure was a necessity, so out came the books and once one was read we were reminded

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Agree to Disagree

Jan 29, 2022
3 min

Agree to Disagree

Photo by PICHA Stock from Pexels OK so is there really such a thing as agree to disagree? Is there a way to disagree politely? Lets look at this from a few angles. First there's politeness, I think being polite is relative as it's based on cultural norms and societal nuance, we all know the age old adage about burping and how it can be deemed as rude in one part of the world and a huge compliment in others. The best way to define it is being respectful and considerate of

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BGT: Lets talk about - Pain

Jan 29, 2022
3 min

BGT: Lets talk about - Pain

Photo by Muhammadtaha Ibrahim Ma'aji from Pexels From periods to depression why do we shy away from conversations about pain? Black women often don't have the conversations or even berate each other for mentioning it but will quickly have the me too conversation after things have gone wrong. So ladies why don't we talk? Issues surrounding stigma, judgement and losing out are all reasons why we don't reveal how we really feel, but the truth is it all comes down to fear. We

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7 Ways To Communicate Better In 2022

Jan 22, 2022
3 min

7 Ways To Communicate Better In 2022

Hey Ladies welcome to the start of a New Year and the beginnings of your next chapter. So many of us start the year with New Years resolutions which for most, were thought up on the run up to midnight and do not last not much longer! Or am I just talking about myself lol! In any case, the thing that starts any year, plays the most significant part in every year and often determines how we endure, engage and empower ourselves - and others - throughout the year, is communicatio

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20 Things You Wish You Knew Before You Had Kids

Jan 22, 2022
3 min

20 Things You Wish You Knew Before You Had Kids

Photo by Greta Hoffman from Pexels When we sit down to talk about motherhood, we laugh, we cry, we get up and we get on, but there are those times that we end up saying out loud, if I knew it was gonna be like this... Now we are all up in our children but there are some times lol when we are like WTH. We know our sistas have the same moments and so we asked them to holla at us about the things they wished they knew before having children and this is what they said: Long term

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BGT: Let's Talk About Being The Black Sheep

Jan 22, 2022
4 min

BGT: Let's Talk About Being The Black Sheep

Reddit- I'm provoked : r/im14andthisisdeep So I was just born the black sheep. No dad, and I do mean this literally, it wasn't just that they were broken up but his identity was a closely guarded secret that I myself didn't find out until I was about 5. When there is no male figure, people feel that they can tell your mother and consequently you exactly who and what you should be. When you don't abide by these things, you become the black sheep. Honestly this caused me a

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Black Girl Taboos: Hair today gone tomorrow

Jan 15, 2022
6 min

Black Girl Taboos: Hair today gone tomorrow

This sis is a topic that we at OY have wanted to discuss for a moment, but as so many of you know, Black women do not talk about hair loss. The shame, embarrassment and reduced confidence we are left feeling, leads many of us and our sistas to live with the problem without seeking treatment or advice. I have personally suffered with hair loss that became more significant after childbirth, where hair loss for many is quite normal. Unfortunately, my initial hair loss was due to

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The Drive time Playlist

Jan 14, 2022
4 min

The Drive time Playlist

They say when music hits you, you feel no pain, oh my yes but you do feel something. What that something is will depend on what you're listening to and the mind frame you have when listening. I may not remember the year but there are some songs I listen to and I can tell you who my friends were, where I used to spend most of my time, and girl whole memories will play in my mind's eye so vividly I could be back in the moment. More often than not, music lifts my spirits so wh

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New Year, New You

Jan 8, 2022
3 min

New Year, New You

New year, new you or is it? Ladies, we know we are always on this lose weight ting as soon as the first of January rolls around, but will we still be rolling, on the first of February lol. We ourselves have started many a diet: Atkins aka stink breath diet Protein aka no pooping Soup diet aka I miss chewing Slimming World - just too many ways to cheat Weight Watchers - er why are they making it so complicated And throughout them all, we have lost more money than pounds! So

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#Blackgirlwins 2021

Jan 8, 2022
3 min

#Blackgirlwins 2021

https://ichef.bbci.co.uk/news/976/cpsprodpb/55E4/production/_121888912_19cb98d2-b441-47dd-b5a6-4eba941ee1d1.jpg Barbados Independence- After 396 years, the British monarchy’s reign over Barbados is over! This marks the birth of the world’s newest republic. An Island led by women, the Prime Minister Mia Mottley and the President Sandra Mason. Tamyra Mensah-Stock became the first Black woman to win a gold medal in wrestling Oprah's notorious Megan and Harry interview caused a

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Dealing with Your Moody Judy

Jan 8, 2022
5 min

Dealing with Your Moody Judy

So there's always a holiday or the weekend arriving...yay!!! Well sort of yay, some of us relish the time when we get to spend extra time with our kids and some of us dread it. Working out what you're going to do with your kids can be a lot of pressure but I have to tell you it can be difficult for them too. As much as my kids enjoy the break from school I know that they can suffer behind the lack of routine and if I'm honest that's because of me not them. If I don't have

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Are Black Women Open to Open Relationships?

Dec 21, 2021
5 min

Are Black Women Open to Open Relationships?

Yes or no or maybe? This is a big question and most people will know which response they lean towards but its one that has recently intrigued me. The bombardment of cheating, failed relationships, divorce and the spill of angry Black women across my socials, has made me question if the alternative to their sadness is an open relationship. Now, because this type of relationship maybe abstract to some, I will explain what the term 'open relationship, means. An 'open relationshi

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12 Ways You Must Try Rum!

Dec 21, 2021
4 min

12 Ways You Must Try Rum!

Ladies, it's the season to enjoy yourself and for us this comes with more rum than what is consumed throughout the rest of the year, lol. Its not that we are 'backsin down rum shot by shot' more like every house has a bottle, a taster, a tipple and so it go! As Bajan's we have a selection of rum and rum items that we thoroughly enjoy and these are made and then consumed by both invited and unexpected guests. Those who visit are in for a treat because we love to share and spr

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